Arrogant pride is the feeling a man gets when he makes a comparison between himself and some other person he considers to be his inferior. It seeks to display and gratify this feeling by showing its superiority to others and by making others painfully feel their inferiority. It takes a low view of others and a high view of self. He is like rooster who thinks the sun has risen just to hear him crow.

An arrogant man (or woman) is repulsive; he loves his own opinions and the rest of the world can be damned. He thinks he is surrounded by idiots and that he is the center of the universe. He cannot learn because he already knows. As people are more and more repulsed by his high estimation of himself, he becomes increasingly isolated. He cannot become part of a community because he is waiting for the community to conform to him; his views are the standard. Rather than consider where he might be wrong, he assumes the rest of the world simple doesn’t understand him. While arrogance is not uncommon in a young person, it is especially ugly as it ages. Arrogance has no friends; it will only abide students. It often tries to hide behind a thinly disguised but false humility, but in the end, it must have its way or it will not play.

Humility is the opposite of arrogance and results when a man views others as more important than himself; a high view of others and a low view of self. A humble man is attractive—attractive to both God and men. As it turns out, the way down is up, and the way up is down. “God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble. Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time…” (1 Peter 5:6). There can be no wisdom without humility; it is the mark of wisdom. “When pride comes, then comes shame; but with the humble is wisdom” (Pr. 11:2). “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall” (Pr. 16:18). Wise men are humble men—humble men are godly men. “He has shown you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justly, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God?” (Micah 6:8).

Genuine modesty adorns humility. The proud man is always looking down—the humble man is always looking up. The humble man flourishes in community because he knows how to love and give and learn. Being around others is not an irritation but an opportunity to grow. “Be of the same mind toward one another. Do not set your mind on high things, but associate with the humble. Do not be wise in your own opinion” (Rom. 12:16). We have something to learn from everyone.