As a young man or woman prepares for adult life, and as their parents guide them in the process, big decisions must be made and the consequences of those decisions are profound. Transitions are always critical to the future. The world has taught us a partial truth when it tells us that education and career are important; indeed, they are, but they are not all-important. Even those issues must be evaluated in a distinctively Christian context. Who is going to teach us, and what they teach us, are the more important issues. Location, costs, championships, respectability, etc. are issues much further down the list. A genuinely good education always costs something. The questions are, how much, and in what currency must it be paid?
Who you marry will have far more impact on what you become than any other factor. Where you go to church is also critical to your spiritual and moral development. Both of these will have much more impact on you and your children, and your children’s children (for a thousand generations), than any degree from any college or university. If that is the case, then why wouldn’t a young person have these issues at the very top of their list as they make decisions about their future? Whether it’s school, or career, or preparation to be a husband and father, or wife and mother, we must place ourselves in the way of wisdom, preparing ourselves for the best possible opportunities.
Since these are the most important questions in life, then why do so few people seek the godly counsel of others, especially their pastors and elders? It’s a sign of immaturity and insecurity to “do it myself.” The community of the Body of Christ exists to increase our wisdom and to teach us to depend on others. Just how much have you learned in the last ten years? Do you think you will learn that much more in the next ten years? If you’re twenty, would you trust the wisdom of a ten-year–old to make wise decisions? Then why do you trust a twenty-year-old when there are much wiser people all around you? “In a multitude of counselors, there is safety” (Pr. 24:6).