So, what do you do when there’s a fire? Water or gas? The answer seems obvious, yet when it comes to the fires of conflict many reach for the gas can. Instead of trying to lower the temperature of a situation they react by adding more fuel to the fire, or at least fanning the existing flames. “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. 2 The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly, but the mouth of fools pours forth foolishness” (Pr. 15:1-2).